Unhappy Marriage
“The whole that is greater than the sum of its parts.” The metaphor is perfect for understanding marriage in its ideal state. But what happens when that larger-than-life entity is reduced to its individual components? Would you know how to save your marriage when you feel hopeless, disconnected, and alone? You may not even recognize…
Read MoreWe all have a dark side that is as much a part of who we are as our sunny-side-of-the-street disposition. And denying even the occasional rendezvous with negative emotions like anger can make us as suspect as the expressed emotions themselves. But there is a dark side that is unequivocally dangerous to the health of…
Read MoreEvery marriage has its frustrations, its grapplings with anger and dissatisfaction, and even its periods of distancing staleness. But some things are so damaging to a relationship that reconciliation is iffy at best. For this reason, learning how to respond to contempt before it takes root in your marriage is essential. The question “How does…
Read MoreWhen you’re in the throes of a heated argument with your spouse, you’re probably not thinking about the link between an unhappy marriage and health. Getting through the rage of the moment unscathed emotionally is more likely your focus. Even the best marriages experience mulligans here and there — a “more than just a disagreement”…
Read MoreIf you have reached adulthood with your parents’ marriage still intact, you may assume they will always be married. Surely they are in the home stretch of life and love and wouldn’t know how to live without one another. Surely they wouldn’t be hiding an unhappy marriage at 50 or older, right? At the risk…
Read MoreYou know in your mind that marriage won’t always be wedding-day bliss. But it’s all but impossible to prepare your heart for the day when you may have to learn how to fix an unhappy marriage and make it better. You know love goes through predictable stages. You know the strain children put on time…
Read MoreIf you and your spouse are in a sexless marriage, have intimacy issues, and have been living more like roommates than a couple, you can make changes to save your relationship and reclaim your romance. Relationships can be maddeningly complicated. But that doesn’t stop us from seeking them. Add romance and those judgment-warping hormones to…
Read MoreCouples often learn the hard way that relationships don’t run on auto-pilot, fueled forever when they fall in love. Like children, pets, and plants, relationships need nurturing too. Learning how to keep a relationship happy and then applying what you’ve learned is hands-down the best relationship advice. To gain some insight, let’s peek behind the…
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