Unhappy Marriage

How To Answer The Question, “Is My Marriage Worth Saving?” Once And For All

By Mary Ellen Goggin / May 15, 2020
Couple holding hands walking into the sunset because they've each finally answered the question is my marriage worth saving.

It’s an unfortunate place to reach in a marriage. Taking a lifetime vow and then feeling disconnected from it can be a lonely, confusing, even frightening reality. Simply questioning, “Is my marriage worth saving?” speaks to the fragility and potential demise of the union. There are ways, however, to slow down the frantic questioning and…

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How To Stop Feeling Contempt Toward Your Spouse And Get That Loving Feeling Back

By Mary Ellen Goggin / May 8, 2020
Couple embracing because they've stopped feeling contempt toward one another.

Of all the tell-tale signs that a marriage may be in trouble, contempt is the worst. There are plenty of reasons contempt is considered the greatest predictor of divorce. And if you have reached this stage in your marriage, you may not see any way out. But if you can commit to learning how to…

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What Does Contempt Do To A Marriage? (Warning: It’s Not Pretty)

By Mary Ellen Goggin / April 10, 2020
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Every marriage has its share of “grrr” moments, raised voices, silent treatment, and even the desire to escape. It’s impossible to live intimately with another person – let alone for a lifetime – without wishing that person would change in a bunch of ways. It’s when negativity is left unchecked that things get dangerous. The…

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How To Save Your Marriage When You Feel Hopeless And All Alone

By Mary Ellen Goggin / March 26, 2020
Couple holding pinkies after saving their marriage despite feeling hopeless.

“The whole that is greater than the sum of its parts.” The metaphor is perfect for understanding marriage in its ideal state. But what happens when that larger-than-life entity is reduced to its individual components? Would you know how to save your marriage when you feel hopeless, disconnected, and alone? You may not even recognize…

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What It Means If You’re Feeling Contempt Toward Your Spouse

By Mary Ellen Goggin / March 10, 2020
Yellow square metal face that appears to be feeling contempt.

We all have a dark side that is as much a part of who we are as our sunny-side-of-the-street disposition. And denying even the occasional rendezvous with negative emotions like anger can make us as suspect as the expressed emotions themselves. But there is a dark side that is unequivocally dangerous to the health of…

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How To Respond To Contempt In Marriage

By Mary Ellen Goggin / March 2, 2020
Man yelling at phone isn't how to respond to contempt.

Every marriage has its frustrations, its grapplings with anger and dissatisfaction, and even its periods of distancing staleness. But some things are so damaging to a relationship that reconciliation is iffy at best. For this reason, learning how to respond to contempt before it takes root in your marriage is essential. The question “How does…

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What You MUST Know About The Link Between An Unhappy Marriage And Health

By Mary Ellen Goggin / January 13, 2020
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When you’re in the throes of a heated argument with your spouse, you’re probably not thinking about the link between an unhappy marriage and health. Getting through the rage of the moment unscathed emotionally is more likely your focus. Even the best marriages experience mulligans here and there — a “more than just a disagreement”…

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What To Do If You’re Struggling With An Unhappy Marriage At 50

By Mary Ellen Goggin / December 9, 2019
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If you have reached adulthood with your parents’ marriage still intact, you may assume they will always be married. Surely they are in the home stretch of life and love and wouldn’t know how to live without one another. Surely they wouldn’t be hiding an unhappy marriage at 50 or older, right? At the risk…

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