Unhappy Marriage

Should You Still Fight For Your Marriage If Your Spouse Has Given Up?

By Mary Ellen Goggin / July 24, 2023
Serious couple looking at each other as they contemplate fighting for their marriage.

When you pledged ‘for better or worse’ on your wedding day, you might not have imagined that the ‘worse’ could be as challenging as your spouse giving up on your marriage. It’s a heartbreaking situation, filled with a whirlwind of emotions— anger, sadness, betrayal, and above all, utter helplessness. It is natural to wonder whether…

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What to Do If Your Husband’s or Wife’s Anxiety Is Ruining Your Marriage

By Mary Ellen Goggin / May 22, 2023
Man wearing a baseball cap and wondering what to do about his wife's anxiety ruining their marriage.

Marriage is based on a strong, unbreakable connection. You may have married your spouse with this belief. However, anyone who’s been married for any length of time can recognize this statement as the myth it is. And it is definitely not that way now. Now, you’re suspicious your husband’s or wife’s anxiety is ruining your…

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How To Know When It’s Time To Stop Fighting For Your Marriage

By Mary Ellen Goggin / March 17, 2023
2 wedding rings on opposite sides of a crumpled and torn piece of paper saying marriage.

For better or for worse, until death do us part. Whenever you begin to wonder if you should stop fighting for your marriage, this is what your inner voice says to you. After all, these were the commitments made when you walked down the aisle, said your vows, and signed the marriage certificate. You promised…

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What To Do If You’ve Struggled With An Unhappy Marriage For Years

By Mary Ellen Goggin / December 9, 2022
Cracked and peeling old, gray paint.

Living in an unhappy marriage for years is the ultimate example of being stuck. You’ve settled into patterns that don’t serve you, and there’s no simple way to back out of them. And yet, whether you back out or stay, you’re making moment-by-moment, day-by-day decisions that will affect the rest of your life. *If your…

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Can Low Self-Esteem Ruin A Relationship?

By Mary Ellen Goggin / November 10, 2022
Self-esteem spelled out in scrabble tiles.

It’s a powerful thing, this self-esteem stuff. You really can’t succeed in life without a healthy dose of it. Likewise, you need a balanced dose of it to keep yourself in check and open to the work of self-improvement. But how does it play into relationships? Can you have too much or too little for…

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Can An Unhappy Marriage Cause Depression?

By Mary Ellen Goggin / November 2, 2022
Depressed woman huddled in a chair, contemplating her unhappy marriage.

Sometimes there’s a fine line between unhappiness and depression. And sometimes casual semantics can blur the distinction between the two. When a marriage is unhappy, depression may be lurking, either right in its midst or as a consequence. But we want to know if there’s a causal relationship. That is, Can an unhappy marriage cause…

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What To Do When One Partner Is Unhappy With The Marriage

By Mary Ellen Goggin / September 10, 2022
Eggs in a carton where one has a worried expression and the other's is upset.

Isn’t it bliss when both of you are on the same page of your romance novel, coursing arm-in-arm toward happily ever after? Everything is copacetic, and even the bumps along the way read more like Singing-in-the-Rain skips. “No biggie, we’ve got this.” But – big sigh – you know life and marriage are rarely so…

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Does Counseling Help Unhappy Marriages

By Mary Ellen Goggin / August 10, 2022
Married couple holding hands at a distance and facing opposite directions.

If you are asking the question, “Does counseling help unhappy marriages?” chances are your marriage has been unhappy for a while. Couples wait an average of six years before deciding to pursue marriage counseling. This is a LONG time to wait – to keep having the same disagreements, to become more and more disconnected…and to…

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