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8 Reasons Self-Love In A Relationship Is Critical To The Relationship’s Success

By Mary Ellen Goggin / July 1, 2022
Appeal for self-love: Love yourself sign surrounded by red roses.

As redundant as they can be, everyday proverbs stand the test of time for a reason. Their succinct, often poetic composition helps commit them to memory. It’s then up to us to pull them out, contemplate them, and apply them. “No one can love you if you don’t love yourself first,” for example, has a…

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Ep 43: Jerry Duberstein | Insight from a Couples Therapist of 40 Years

By Mary Ellen Goggin / June 23, 2022

In relationship, you want to maintain individual autonomy, and you also want security. Many people believe you can’t have both, but you can. Dr. Jerry Duberstein has been a couples therapist for over 40 years. He and his wife co-wrote the book, Relationship Transformation: A Practical Guide for Couples Who Want to be Free and…

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How To Talk With Your Spouse Respectfully After Being Contemptuous

By Mary Ellen Goggin / June 13, 2022

The dynamics and tone of communication determine almost everything in a relationship. What you say, how/when/why you say it – they can create a haven for safety and growth or a perfect storm for destruction. If you don’t know how to talk with your spouse respectfully, the erosion of your marriage is pretty much a…

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Surviving Infidelity As A Couple: Can Your Marriage Make It?

By Mary Ellen Goggin / May 26, 2022
Wave washing over a heart carved in the sand.

There’s a question everyone in the aftermath of infidelity asks: Can we survive this? Usually, at least for the betrayed, there’s a more singular concern: Can I survive this? While the prospects of surviving infidelity as a couple may seem counterintuitive in the wake of decimated trust, it happens every day. “Surviving” a traumatic experience…

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8 Things To Do If You’re Losing Your Sense Of Self In A Relationship

By Mary Ellen Goggin / May 11, 2022

You may not even notice that you’re losing your sense of self in a relationship, especially if you’re married. But living into a balance of “me” and “we” is essential for happiness when you’re living as a couple.

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How To Talk To Your Spouse About Trust After Their Affair

By Mary Ellen Goggin / April 30, 2022

The time to discuss trust is before marriage. Learning how to talk to your spouse about trust after their affair can be done, but you’ll need these tips.

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Unhappy Marriage Vs. Divorce: How To Determine Which Is Best For Your Situation

By Mary Ellen Goggin / April 22, 2022

There’s no easy answer, especially when you’re plagued by misery and the conflicting mindset that accompanies it. Continuing to live in an unhappy marriage vs. divorce? Rushing to hire a divorce lawyer to stop the slow bleed? Where’s the upside in either choice? Knowing that you aren’t the first to struggle with this dilemma probably…

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9 Tips For Overcoming An Affair In Your Marriage

By Mary Ellen Goggin / April 15, 2022

If you’ve already done it, you can probably look back with sage insight at the seemingly interminable agony of saving your marriage. If you are in the throes of it, you most likely see little but “impossible,” “How?” and “Why?” before you. Overcoming an affair in your marriage – six words that read quickly but…

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