Do you wonder if your relationship is beyond help?
If you’re struggling to stay in a relationship, on the brink of giving up, or feel stuck− you’re in the perfect place for relationship counseling to make a big difference. Even if you wonder that you are beyond help, married the wrong person, or don’t know what to do, counseling can help. Sometimes you just need some guidance to get you back on track.
Is your relationship in crisis?
In our private couples retreats, we help couples on the edge of divorce or struggling with relationship-shattering issues like overcoming infidelity, blame-shame cycles, chronic anger, substance abuse, sex addiction, or emotional abuse. Our relationship counseling breaks down the causes of these issues and helps you find a better way to interact with each other.
We work with couples in troubled relationships often characterized by destructive fighting or disconnection and withdrawal, anxiety and depression, deceit and dishonesty, sex drive differences, or lack of desire. We help couples resolve long standing disagreements about money problems, parenting, or disagreements about in-laws.
You don’t need to be at your wit’s end and desperate for ways to save your marriage to work with us. In fact, the sooner you deal with your relationship challenges (and we all have them), the easier it is to get back on track. Research shows that couples wait an average of six years before seeking outside help when the relationship is already in crisis. Sometimes they wait until it is too late. Relationship counseling works best when you use it as soon as you notice something feels “off.”
You won’t find cookie-cutter models, generic formulas, or preachy, do it our way lessons, new age clichés, or blaming. Instead, we’ll honor your unique desires, draw on our 40+ years of clinical experience, and show you the freedom to be yourself and be loved as you are. We help you find the approach that works best for you and your relationship.
Our book, Relationship Transformation, gives you a trusty map for blazing your own trail to a satisfying relationship — on your own terms.
Think you have to give up freedom to have intimacy? Fear you have to sacrifice deep connection to indulge self-realization?
Deep down, most of us want it all. We want a satisfying relationship and individual freedom. We’ve been taught we can’t have both — thankfully, that’s not true!
Nothing is worse than prolonged misery. It sinks into your bones and feels heavy and oppressive.
Do you feel criticized constantly by your partner?
Do you feel burdened and hopeless + forget who you really are and why you are together?
Do you feel angry, frustrated, and hopeless about your relationship?
Are you stuck in a bad place even though you’ve tried everything, even traditional couples counseling or couples therapy?
Want to talk today? Call or text 603-828-3649. Later? Contact us to set up a free consultation
What makes our private couples counseling retreats unique?
In our couple-to-couple counseling retreat, we meet you where you are with our decades of experience, diverse backgrounds, a practical approach, and compassionate listening. We’ll crack the hidden dynamic that blocks your happiness and point you in the direction you want to go.
Direct, Balanced Support
You will work with us, a married couple with expertise. When you work with a couple (as opposed to one counselor) you bypass the three’s a crowd, odd-person-out phenomenon that often leads to couples vying to garner favor with the therapist, a waste of your valuable time and energy.
Widening Your Perspective
In our relationship counseling, we explore your relationship through the lens of both a masculine and feminine perspective – although our individual reactions are not always predictable or consistent with traditional gender lines. Heterosexual couples find the freedom to question or step outside cultural gender boxes, especially the ones of their own making.
Our fluid view and experience of gender is one aspect of our work that makes our same-sex couples counseling effective. We see gender as a continuum (rather than a polarity) along a line with masculine and feminine at either end.
We believe that you chose your partner for a reason and with guidance most problems can be resolved. We support you in a way that honors your soul, encourages your heart, inspires your mind, and heals the inevitable wounds you suffered along the way.
What is the result of our exploration together?
Transformative. Couples who started out sitting on opposite ends of the couch, with arms and legs crossed, folded into themselves, gradually move closer and turn toward each other. Hands clasp, a shoulder, a cheek is gently stroked. Couples look into each other’s eyes and see each other in a new light. We witness sweet relief cross and soften their faces and their bodies unfold as tension dissolves. Voices lose their harsh, angry edge, and then soften. We feel the change. It is palpable. Visceral. Couples lean-in to the beauty of their re-creation.
Thank you both again and thank you Mary Ellen to your feminine sensitivity toward me. This is what I will always remember about you. You both are doing an important job of helping to keep marriages together and you are very much appreciated.
We had worked with several couples therapists (as well as individual ones). Our experience with you felt totally different and marvelously refreshing in that there was no time to ruminate endlessly on “the problems” but a need to get on with the solutions.