Communication
Stonewalling, a silent barrier to conversation, can stealthily infiltrate our most valued relationships, leading to feelings of isolation and misunderstanding. This defensive mechanism, while not uncommon, has the potential to significantly erode the trust and intimacy of your connections. Tackling stonewalling in a relationship goes beyond merely re-establishing communication—it’s about reinforcing a dedication to mutual…
Read MoreCommunication is the lifeblood of marriage. When it’s done well, it keeps relationships vibrant and growing. Like dancers in a tango, partners must respond and lead in harmony. Achieving this synergy while life is happening is challenging – to say the least. Misunderstandings, missteps, and missed cues often lead to conflicts and emotional distance and,…
Read MoreWhen the gentleness between you hardens and you fall out of your belonging to each other May the depths you have reached hold you still. When no true word can be said or heard and you mirror each other in scripts of hurt When even the silence has become raw and torn May you hear…
Read MoreAnyone who’s been in a long-term relationship knows that conflicts are part of the package. These disagreements, however, needn’t be destructive. On the contrary, when handled properly, they can become catalysts for a deeper understanding and a stronger marriage. This is where the concept of “fighting fair” in marriage comes into play. “Fighting fair” doesn’t…
Read MoreIt’s said that every garden, no matter how beautiful, must be tended to. In the same vein, a marriage, despite being a haven of love and companionship, requires continuous nurturing. Like an unkempt garden that slowly becomes overgrown with weeds, a marriage can become entangled with the thorns of communication issues if not properly cared…
Read MoreIt starts off so easy. You can talk about anything. You can even disagree and debate without fazing your affections or the relationship itself. At some point, however, you forget how to communicate with your partner without arguing. The topics don’t necessarily change. But somehow your communication does. And right there is the irony: One…
Read MoreYou would think that love would be sufficient for good communication. I love you, you love me, we’ll always be able to talk about anything. But what a myth! Learning how to communicate with your spouse is first an education in yourself. Master that, and you can move on to the real communication of your…
Read MoreThe dynamics and tone of communication determine almost everything in a relationship. What you say, how/when/why you say it – they can create a haven for safety and growth or a perfect storm for destruction. If you don’t know how to talk with your spouse respectfully, the erosion of your marriage is pretty much a…
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