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Relationship Power Struggle: Controlling Relationships

By Jerry / October 30, 2012

Many couples spend their evenings “together” watching television. While they want a non-demanding way to relax after work, tensions often arise when couples struggle over what they’re going to watch. I know a lot of men who watch sports and the news. Period. They’re not interested in Two and A Half Men or Thirty Rock.…

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Can a Relationship on the Brink of Divorce Be Saved?

By Jerry / October 30, 2012

Jessica and Richard told me they were at the end of their 9 year marriage. Their relationship was draining their energy and optimism. She thought him self-centered and distant. He found her constant chatter annoying. They started counseling with me for the sake of their two children, but without much hope that their marriage could…

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Relationship Politics: Right and Left

By Jerry / October 30, 2012

Politics + Relationship: Red State Husband-Blue State Wife Don’t Let Political Arguments Threaten Your Marriage When I was growing up my parents had opposing views on politics. My mother grew up during the depression, loved FDR and was committed to the Democratic Party. My father was a WWII veteran who liked Ike. They rarely talked…

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The Geology of Your Relationship

By Jerry / October 30, 2012

In high school I took Earth Science as a way of avoiding chemistry. Geology, the study of the solid earth, is the primary Earth Science. Geology deals with the composition of earth materials and structures, and studies how the planet has changed over time and continues to change everyday. These changes in the earth’s topography…

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Commitment Phobic or Just Confused?

By Mary Ellen Goggin / October 29, 2012

Commitment Phobic or Just Confused by the Words “I Do”? I’m going out on a limb here by stating that the deep down cause of commitment phobia is the historic baggage associated with marriage as an impersonal institution of marriage and NOT lack of love. It’s about fear of loss of self and personal freedom.…

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Relationship Transformation–A Couples and Marriage Weekend Retreat-Really?

By Jerry / October 29, 2012

  . A Couples Retreat―Really? My answer to this question is unequivocally YES! Everyone wonders whether time spent at a couples weekend retreat can actually improve their relationships for the long-term. Again the answer is Yes. In fact, most often weekend retreats yield a more streamlined and effective result than couples therapy. Let me explain.…

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Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship

By Jerry / September 18, 2012
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Do you ever wonder if your relationship is abusive? If you even ask yourself this question it’s probably troubling enough, but know that you are not alone. One in three women in the U.S. is physically assaulted by a partner at least once in her lifetime. Every nine seconds a woman is beaten or attacked.…

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I’m married. Why do I feel so lonely?

By Jerry / September 2, 2012

In Tom’s fifth session, we explored why he found it so difficult to ask people, including his wife Janice of 15 years, to give him what he needs. Let’s eavesdrop on the conversation. “It’s hard for me to ask anyone for anything. I’d rather walk than ask for a ride, starve than borrow money, or…

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