Infidelity
The idea of surviving repeated infidelity within your marriage probably never pinged your blissful connubial radar. But here you are. There was a time when even one indiscretion would have been a death blow to your trust and marriage. A one-night stand, a long-term scandal – it wouldn’t have mattered. A bubble busted is a…
Read MoreThe work of surviving affairs and infidelity can seem insurmountable. And, for many couples whose relationships have been unearthed by cheating, the outcome is proof of the seeming impossibility. But the truth is, like anything else in life, there are always those who will defy the odds. Somewhere along the line they decide that they…
Read MoreThe irony of surviving infidelity is that you have to do now what you should have done then. But now you have to do it consciously, conscientiously, and consistently. And you have to do it under the assault of anger, pain, guilt, shame, regret, fear, sadness, and emotional fatigue. Communication now has make-or-break importance. Talking…
Read MoreThere’s no question that few things will shatter a heart or marriage like infidelity. It is a veritable implosion of everything marriage stands for. If you are in the recent throes of an affair, surviving infidelity in your marriage may seem impossible. And it can feel as impossible for the offender as it does for…
Read MoreEveryone has an unspoken standard regarding fidelity. Regardless of whether couples discuss their beliefs and expectations before tying the knot, they have them. For most couples, the thought of getting over sexual infidelity is unbearable. But surviving emotional infidelity in marriage can be just as painful, sometimes even more so. What is it about an…
Read MoreIt doesn’t matter what the statistics say about how many spouses cheat or which gender or age group cheats more. When your spouse has betrayed you, you feel your entire world has imploded. You can’t breathe, you can’t think, you can’t see through your tears. And surviving the pain of infidelity seems impossible. Infidelity is…
Read MoreThe revelation of infidelity, whether by disclosure or discovery, is a life-shattering event. It can elicit emotions and reactions you never thought you were capable of. And talking about the affair might be paralyzing to you both. The irony of the topic “communication after an affair” is that marriages vulnerable to infidelity are often characterized…
Read MoreConsoling the person betrayed by infidelity comes naturally. Rally your judgments against the lying, cheating you-know-what, and no doubt you will be a source of comfort and solidarity. But what about the person surviving the guilt of infidelity? The person who shattered trust, hearts, and vows? Is there no redemption, no healing, no future for…
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