Mary Ellen Goggin
There’s a question everyone in the aftermath of infidelity asks: Can we survive this? Usually, at least for the betrayed, there’s a more singular concern: Can I survive this? While the prospects of surviving infidelity as a couple may seem counterintuitive in the wake of decimated trust, it happens every day. “Surviving” a traumatic experience…
Read MoreYou may not even notice that you’re losing your sense of self in a relationship, especially if you’re married. But living into a balance of “me” and “we” is essential for happiness when you’re living as a couple.
Read MoreThe time to discuss trust is before marriage. Learning how to talk to your spouse about trust after their affair can be done, but you’ll need these tips.
Read MoreThere’s no easy answer, especially when you’re plagued by misery and the conflicting mindset that accompanies it. Continuing to live in an unhappy marriage vs. divorce? Rushing to hire a divorce lawyer to stop the slow bleed? Where’s the upside in either choice? Knowing that you aren’t the first to struggle with this dilemma probably…
Read MoreIf you’ve already done it, you can probably look back with sage insight at the seemingly interminable agony of saving your marriage. If you are in the throes of it, you most likely see little but “impossible,” “How?” and “Why?” before you. Overcoming an affair in your marriage – six words that read quickly but…
Read MoreIt’s so much easier to focus on what the other person is doing (or not doing) in a relationship. Is s/he following the rules? Communicating to your liking? Reading your mind? Being a royal pain-in-the-you-know-what? Did it ever occur to you that learning how to be more self-aware in a relationship could be the key to getting the answers you want?
Read MoreYou likely won’t know what you want in the early aftermath of infidelity. But annihilating all your options in a furied retaliation will serve nothing but a temporary assuaging of anger.
Here are some key points for how to talk to your spouse about them cheating.
Read MorePeople love drama. They get their caffeine jolt as much from shock-and-awe as from a dark roast. Tell them you’re not happy in your marriage, and they’ll assumptively ask who’s cheating. More often than not, however, what leads to an unhappy marriage isn’t black or white. It’s buried in shades of gray.
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