Mary Ellen Goggin

How To Talk To Your Spouse About Them Cheating

By Mary Ellen Goggin / February 13, 2022

You likely won’t know what you want in the early aftermath of infidelity. But annihilating all your options in a furied retaliation will serve nothing but a temporary assuaging of anger.

Here are some key points for how to talk to your spouse about them cheating. 

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What Leads To An Unhappy Marriage?

By Mary Ellen Goggin / February 2, 2022

People love drama. They get their caffeine jolt as much from shock-and-awe as from a dark roast. Tell them you’re not happy in your marriage, and they’ll assumptively ask who’s cheating. More often than not, however, what leads to an unhappy marriage isn’t black or white. It’s buried in shades of gray. 

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5 Strategies For Overcoming An Emotional Affair

By Mary Ellen Goggin / January 21, 2022

Overcoming an emotional affair can be as difficult (sometimes more so) than overcoming a physical/sexual affair. And the effects of an emotional affair can cut just as (if not more) deeply.

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5 Ways To Cultivate Self-Love In A Relationship

By Mary Ellen Goggin / January 14, 2022

Perhaps you’re so in love that you don’t realize the full extent of what you’re promising. Perhaps you just want to say “I do” and get the reception rockin’. And perhaps you think these vows are all about “other-love” and not self-love. In a relationship, after all, it can be easy to lose your footing in the name of love.

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How To Communicate When Your Spouse Won’t Talk To You

By Mary Ellen Goggin / January 4, 2022

It goes both ways, that communication thing. But what happens when it seems to be one-sided? You’re talking, your spouse isn’t. You’re trying to find a way to move forward, your spouse is holding out. Your dilemma is now how to communicate when your spouse won’t because, apparently, nothing is working.

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Can You Save An Unhappy Marriage?

By Mary Ellen Goggin / December 6, 2021
Woman laying on bed feeling depressed about her unhappy marriage.

Can you save an unhappy marriage?  You can forgo a lot of reading with this simple yes.  Should you save an unhappy marriage? Flip a coin, and you’ll find arguments (and merit) on both sides. How do you save an unhappy marriage? Here is where your reading begins. I’ve written on this topic before, of…

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6 Reasons Surviving Marital Infidelity Requires Therapy

By Mary Ellen Goggin / November 22, 2021
Woman sitting lakeside with her husband talking about surviving marital infidelity.

You’ve got a choice to make. It doesn’t even matter who did what. You’re standing at a three-tined fork in the road, and there’s no turning back. One of you betrayed the other and your marriage, and the only secrets left undisclosed are the details. “Surviving marital infidelity” is now the tagline for your day-in-the-life-of…

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How To Gain Self-Respect In A Relationship

By Mary Ellen Goggin / November 15, 2021
Cracked wall painted with with the word respect sloppily stenciled on it.

Relationships. They draw us in, bind us together, dangle possibilities before our star-struck eyes. They also expose us for who we are and can be. Relationships strip us to the nakedness of vulnerability – that iffy space that can both heal and hurt. Do you find yourself or lose yourself? Do you know how to…

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