Mary Ellen Goggin

What You Must Know About Surviving Long-Term Infidelity

By Mary Ellen Goggin / January 23, 2019
Couple having a painful discussing about surviving long-term infidelity.

Infidelity changes you. It just does. The betrayed, the betrayer, the marriage — everything morphs. Surviving long-term infidelity, however, is particularly exacting. From admission or discovery to atonement to acceptance, the long-term affair is an inevitable call to action. As if a “moment of indiscretion” or “lapse in judgment” isn’t bad enough, long-term infidelity is…

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What To Do When Your Unhappy Marriage Leads To Depression

By Mary Ellen Goggin / January 17, 2019
An unhappy marriage leads to depression

Depression affects 1 in 6 people at some point in their lives. And it affects every aspect of their lives. If an unhappy marriage leads to depression in one spouse, the marriage itself is considered depressed. In an indirect way, depression is actually contagious. Because depression in marriage can be caused by emotional distancing, avoidance,…

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7 Things To Do When You’re Afraid To Communicate With Your Spouse

By Mary Ellen Goggin / January 17, 2019
when you're afraid to communicate with your spouse

Marriage is supposed to be that one sacred place where you can be yourself and speak freely. But when you’re afraid to communicate with your spouse, your relationship and home life can feel more like a prison. It’s not uncommon for one or both spouses in a marriage to have difficulty being assertive in their…

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How To Communicate With Your Spouse About Finances

By Mary Ellen Goggin / January 4, 2019
how to communicate with your spouse about finances

Two issues top the list of reasons couples divorce: infidelity, followed by finances. Knowing how to communicate with your spouse about finances, then, could do more than ensure the mortgage gets paid on time. It could actually save your marriage. A survey by Ramsey Solutions found that nearly two-thirds of couples start their marriage in…

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Are You In An Unhappy Marriage?

By Mary Ellen Goggin / December 18, 2018
are you in an unhappy marriage

If a confidential survey asked, “Are you in a happy marriage?” would you have an immediate answer? What if it asked, “Are you in an unhappy marriage?” Would you be able to answer “yes” or “no” confidently…and explain your answers? Sometimes the middle ground sounds something like, “Sure, we’re happy….Well, we’re not unnnhappy….” If you’re…

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Why Attend A Marriage Retreat With Counseling

By Mary Ellen Goggin / December 18, 2018
marriage retreat with counseling

Marriage and couples’ therapy is a unique and specialized niche in the world of psychotherapy. And the marriage retreat-with-counseling is an even more specialized niche within the realm of marriage and couples’ therapy. While individual therapy may be ideal when working through your personal history and issues, if your relationship is what ails you, a…

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Why Attend A Marriage Retreat Intensive Weekend

By Mary Ellen Goggin / December 11, 2018
why attend a marriage retreat

No one argues with the need to head out of town for product training or team building for work. But why attend a marriage retreat for something that should just come naturally? After all, this is marriage, not a new software package. Well, okay. But we could get a little cheeky-metaphorical here and suggest that…

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