Mary Ellen Goggin
Infidelity changes you. It just does. The betrayed, the betrayer, the marriage — everything morphs. Surviving long-term infidelity, however, is particularly exacting. From admission or discovery to atonement to acceptance, the long-term affair is an inevitable call to action. As if a “moment of indiscretion” or “lapse in judgment” isn’t bad enough, long-term infidelity is…
Read MoreDepression affects 1 in 6 people at some point in their lives. And it affects every aspect of their lives. If an unhappy marriage leads to depression in one spouse, the marriage itself is considered depressed. In an indirect way, depression is actually contagious. Because depression in marriage can be caused by emotional distancing, avoidance,…
Read MoreMarriage is supposed to be that one sacred place where you can be yourself and speak freely. But when you’re afraid to communicate with your spouse, your relationship and home life can feel more like a prison. It’s not uncommon for one or both spouses in a marriage to have difficulty being assertive in their…
Read MoreTwo issues top the list of reasons couples divorce: infidelity, followed by finances. Knowing how to communicate with your spouse about finances, then, could do more than ensure the mortgage gets paid on time. It could actually save your marriage. A survey by Ramsey Solutions found that nearly two-thirds of couples start their marriage in…
Read MoreIf you take your eye off the prize, the demands of daily life can hijack your happiness — and before you know it — you’re in an unhappy marriage relationship. Most often it happens without warning. The thrill of infatuation gives way to the regularity of daily routine. That is normal. But then gradually a…
Read MoreIf a confidential survey asked, “Are you in a happy marriage?” would you have an immediate answer? What if it asked, “Are you in an unhappy marriage?” Would you be able to answer “yes” or “no” confidently…and explain your answers? Sometimes the middle ground sounds something like, “Sure, we’re happy….Well, we’re not unnnhappy….” If you’re…
Read MoreMarriage and couples’ therapy is a unique and specialized niche in the world of psychotherapy. And the marriage retreat-with-counseling is an even more specialized niche within the realm of marriage and couples’ therapy. While individual therapy may be ideal when working through your personal history and issues, if your relationship is what ails you, a…
Read MoreNo one argues with the need to head out of town for product training or team building for work. But why attend a marriage retreat for something that should just come naturally? After all, this is marriage, not a new software package. Well, okay. But we could get a little cheeky-metaphorical here and suggest that…
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