Mary Ellen Goggin
If cheating spouses knew all that goes into surviving the guilt of infidelity, they would probably reconsider their straying. Betrayal is undeniably devastating to the unsuspecting spouse. But it also wounds and scars the one who cheats. Infidelity means different things to different people. There’s “the obvious,” of course. But there are also the various…
Read MoreYou wouldn’t think twice about getting extra training to make you better at your job. Some things you just have to do when you have priorities. But what are the chances you would attend a couples marriage retreat to make you better at your marriage? Again, priorities. If you’ve never attended a couples marriage retreat,…
Read MoreAnger is a difficult bedfellow, both in oneself and in one’s closest relationships. And nowhere is it more potent than in a marriage. Knowing how to communicate with your angry spouse, let alone without making things worse, can be frustrating and even frightening. Anger is a natural emotion. We all experience it and know the…
Read MoreThe idea of surviving repeated infidelity within your marriage probably never pinged your blissful connubial radar. But here you are. There was a time when even one indiscretion would have been a death blow to your trust and marriage. A one-night stand, a long-term scandal – it wouldn’t have mattered. A bubble busted is a…
Read MoreYou’re enough of a realist to expect some down days, occasional heated arguments, and I’ll-lose-my-mind-if-I-don’t-get-some-alone-time pinings for a solo vacay. None would be on your favorites list, but none would qualify your marriage as “unhappy,” either. Being in an unhappy marriage, let alone an unhappy marriage for years, takes a different toll. Believe it or…
Read MoreIt’s one of the ugly must-do’s of marriage: figuring out how to talk to your spouse about debt. Whether it got dragged down the aisle like a ball and chain or snowballed after the nuptials, debt is a tough topic. Between student loans, a ginormous, she-can’t-say-no-now engagement ring, and that Pnina Tornai wedding gown, you…
Read MoreThe work of surviving affairs and infidelity can seem insurmountable. And, for many couples whose relationships have been unearthed by cheating, the outcome is proof of the seeming impossibility. But the truth is, like anything else in life, there are always those who will defy the odds. Somewhere along the line they decide that they…
Read MoreKnowing how to get out of an unhappy marriage isn’t as simple as doing a web search for divorce lawyers. It’s not even necessarily about getting divorced. There are two components to an “unhappy marriage”: unhappy and marriage. And when your disappointment, sadness, or downright despair starts making you eye the front door, one or…
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