Savor life (and love) this summer. Summer is a time to kick-back, lighten up and be more carefree. I don’t know about you, but all month I’ve had that wonderful last-day-of-school feeling, which is a combination of relief, new-found freedom and excitement. I’m going with it and letting this recaptured feeling build. Summer seduces me […]
The demands of daily life can hijack your relationship if you take your eye off the prize — love. The couples we work with in our private intensive retreats want to get their relationships back on track. By the time they come to us, they feel disconnected. They’ve grown distant. They find themselves mired in […]
Have you ever noticed that some people in your life are direct, to the point and crystal clear about their opinions on a wide range of topics? They have a “direct” communication style. Other people use an indirect style. They spend more time developing their point and are afraid to create tension or discomfort, especially […]
Last night I had a strange dream. I watched my wife speed away on a motorcycle with Johnny Depp. She clung to him so tightly it was obvious they were having an affair. In that instant I felt a combination of jealousy and admiration of her choice in Johnny Depp. Really, who could blame her? […]
Hot, Steamy Sex Is Just a Click Away… Is Porn Ruining Your Relationship? Pornography is not a new issue in therapy. Over the years I’ve helped hundreds of clients understand their curiosity, shame, attraction, repulsion, and obsession with regard to porn. I’ve suggested couples try watching soft-porn together to spice up their sex life. I’ve […]
Peggy came into her session looking distraught. “There must be a screw loose in my head or I’m just not that bright when it comes to men. You would think that I would learn, but no matter how hard I try to select carefully, I end up with guys who want someone to take charge […]
A therapist offers a stepmother advice in dealing with her stepson a troubled teen-aged boy. It’s not what you think.
It is human nature to want to share our experiences with the one we love. In our intensive couples therapy retreats, we teach that a person’s desire to be “known” by their partner is a foundation of healthy intimacy. It is also human nature to be curious about your partner’s relationship past —a key to learn […]