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The Best Gift for Valentine’s Day

Selecting a Valentine’s Day card for your honey can be a tricky business, especially if anger and resentment have infiltrated your relationship.  A sweet, sentimental card will seem disingenuous and a humorous card will likely offend. What to do?  Chocolate may come to the rescue – but maybe, just maybe, you can give a more valuable gift.

Valentine’s Day is a time when many feel a pang of disappointment. They are reminded of the fairy tale of everlasting passion and unchanging love.  This is a myth that never has a chance of living up to the hype. The romantic myth has been commercialized and idealized by movies, TV, and Harlequin novels. It belongs with unicorns, Atlantis, and the Tooth Fairy.

In the real world, if you and your partner have been together for any length of time, like most people you’ve had your ups and downs, drag down fights, felt disconnected, and heart-broken. You have compromised, made accommodations, apologized, forgiven, and let go of your pain.

Creating a successful relationship is one of life’s most difficult challenges. Valentine’s Day is an opportunity to take the time to recognize and appreciate the love that you share. It’s a day to remember that we’re all flawed – and more than anything else – desperately want to be accepted by our partner.  The gift of acceptance is far sweeter than chocolate.

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