Blessing for Love in Time of Conflict

When the gentleness between you hardens and you fall out of your belonging to each other

May the depths you have reached hold you still.

When no true word can be said or heard and you mirror each other in scripts of hurt

When even the silence has become raw and torn

May you hear again an echo of your first music.

When the weave of affection starts to unravel and anger begins to sear the ground between you 

Before this weather of grief invites the black seed of bitterness to find root

May your souls come to kiss.

Now is the time for one of you to be gracious to allow a kindness beyond thought and hurt.

Reach out with sure hands to take the chalice of your love and carry it carefully until this winter pilgrimage leads you toward the gateway of Spring.

Taken from To Bless the Spaces Between Us  by John O’Donohue

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Mary Ellen Goggin

Mary Ellen is a highly skilled and intuitive relationship guide. She brings over 35 years’ experience with individuals and businesses as a lawyer, mediator, personal coach and educator. She received her J.D. at University of New Hampshire Law School and a Master’s Degree at Harvard University. Mary Ellen co-authored Relationship Transformation: How to Have Your Cake and Eat It Too with Jerry Duberstein — and they were married by chapter 3. Mary Ellen brings a unique blend of problem-solving, practicality, and warmth to her work. She’s a highly analytic person, with geeky and monkish tendencies. She’s a daredevil skydiver, a voracious seeker of knowledge, and an indulgent grandmother. Her revolution: helping people become the unapologetic rulers of their inner + outer realms. Read more about the retreats