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When you’re in the throes of a heated argument with your spouse, you’re probably not thinking about the link between an unhappy marriage and health. Getting through the rage of the moment unscathed emotionally is more likely your focus. Even the best marriages experience mulligans here and there — a “more than just a disagreement”…
Continue ReadingYou didn’t see it coming. You probably can’t even pinpoint how or when the shutdown began. And you certainly don’t know why it happened. But suddenly you and your spouse aren’t talking about more than basics. The irony is that, when you stop communicating with your spouse, communication is needed more than ever. Perhaps you…
Continue ReadingWhen you look at the most common reasons for which couples divorce, it’s sad to think that divorce is the result. Did the couples even try to save their marriages? Did they even know how to try? And if they had attended a marriage counseling retreat before divorce, would they still be married today? Every…
Continue ReadingIt doesn’t matter what the statistics say about how many spouses cheat or which gender or age group cheats more. When your spouse has betrayed you, you feel your entire world has imploded. You can’t breathe, you can’t think, you can’t see through your tears. And surviving the pain of infidelity seems impossible. Infidelity is…
Continue ReadingIf you have reached adulthood with your parents’ marriage still intact, you may assume they will always be married. Surely they are in the home stretch of life and love and wouldn’t know how to live without one another. Surely they wouldn’t be hiding an unhappy marriage at 50 or older, right? At the risk…
Continue ReadingThe revelation of infidelity, whether by disclosure or discovery, is a life-shattering event. It can elicit emotions and reactions you never thought you were capable of. And talking about the affair might be paralyzing to you both. The irony of the topic “communication after an affair” is that marriages vulnerable to infidelity are often characterized…
Continue ReadingReasons for considering a marriage retreat after an affair link up with the relationship deficits that led up to infidelity in the first place. People don’t always understand how they got into such a mess. To say that more accurately, they rarely understand how or why they created the disaster in which they’ve landed. Infidelity…
Continue ReadingConsoling the person betrayed by infidelity comes naturally. Rally your judgments against the lying, cheating you-know-what, and no doubt you will be a source of comfort and solidarity. But what about the person surviving the guilt of infidelity? The person who shattered trust, hearts, and vows? Is there no redemption, no healing, no future for…
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