Our book gives you a trusty map for blazing your own trail to a satisfying relationship — on your own terms.
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step by steps you to an awareness of what drives you
Relationship Transformation step-by-steps you to an awareness of what drives you, what holds you back, and how you can re-envision your relationship to create lasting, satisfying love.
Re-envision yourself, your partner, and your relationship.
Our book distills Jerry Duberstein’s 40+ years as a therapist into an accessible, helpful guide to honoring your separate selves while building joyful, committed relationships. In it, you’ll find:
- The Inner Relationship Fingerprint Assessment: discover your relating style
- Tons of case studies: front-row seats to the interior lives of couples
- Quizzes, exercises, instructions, and discovery prompts
- Simple ways to enrich and deepen your inner and shared lives
- Guided reflections to reconnect to your inner still point
- Timeless, universal practices applicable to any relationship and situation.
We know that no one relationship model works for every couple. So instead of suggesting a cookie-cutter ideal, we guide you to honoring your unique desires — and discovering and consciously creating the relationship that’s best for you.
meg and jerry
Meet the Authors
We (Jerry + Meg) wrote this book together, in the first year of our relationship. We road-tested every exercise on ourselves, in real time — and created a more satisfying relationship than either of us had ever had. By Chapter 3, we were married!
We can testify first-hand the power of working through these processes for reconnecting to yourself and your partner.
You’ll get Jerry’s clinical experience + Meg’s down-to-earth practicality. A gender-balanced guide you can trust. A guide from one couple to another.
Discover a fresh perspective on yourself and how you relate. Cultivate the courage to speak your deepest needs. Create the relationship you want.
“The ones that can hurt us the worst are the ones that we love the most. The damage we do and the damage that is done to us by strangers is nothing compared to what our spouses are capable of. That’s why “Relationship Transformation: Have Your Cake and Eat It Too” by Jerry Duberstein and Mary Ellen Goggin is such a timely and important contribution to every growing library of self-help guides. This 184 page paperback compendium offers a comprehensive yet succinct guide to building relationships with loved ones that will endure for a lifetime. Practical, thoroughly ‘user friendly’, insightful, and at times inspirational, “Relationship Transformation” is highly recommended for personal reading lists and community library Self Help reference collections.” — The Midwest Book Review
“Too often people seek couple therapy in hopes their partners will change—usually a lost cause. I love the ways the stories and exercises invite you to first explore your own style of thinking and communication. You can mutually transform your conversations from trying to prove yourself right to seeking genuine intimacy. Although designed as a self-study book for couples, it applies to all types of relationships, and could help those who are single to prepare for a healthy relationship.”— Cynthia L. Wall, LCSW, author of The Courage to Trust: a guide to building deep and lasting relationships
“For too long love and commitment have been misunderstood as meaning a loss of freedom. Instead, real romance, true love, and lifelong commitment help you plumb the depths of your true freedom—and this book shows you how!” — Judith Sherven, PhD, and Jim Sniechowski, PhD, best-selling authors of The New Intimacy
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