Clients commonly complain about the loss of sizzle and ensuing staleness and boredom that creeps into their relationship. They reminisce about how they felt when they fell in love, describing fireworks, shaking earth, clammy hands, flushed cheeks, unbearable anticipation, and a new awareness of the world’s vivid beauty. Few good things in life overtake and […]
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Can a Sexless Relationship Thrive? Richard, a 40 year old client told me recently, “I’ve been married for nine years. My wife, Diane, means everything to me. I love her dearly. She is a great partner and companion. We‘ve created a wonderful life together. I know it may be weird, but we don’t have sex. […]
Relationship therapist offers advice for partners whose sex drives don’t match and a way to explore what could be the real cause and how to fix it.
Hot, Steamy Sex Is Just a Click Away… Is Porn Ruining Your Relationship? Pornography is not a new issue in therapy. Over the years I’ve helped hundreds of clients understand their curiosity, shame, attraction, repulsion, and obsession with regard to porn. I’ve suggested couples try watching soft-porn together to spice up their sex life. I’ve […]
Last night I had a strange dream. I watched my wife speed away on a motorcycle with Johnny Depp. She clung to him so tightly it was obvious they were having an affair. In that instant I felt a combination of jealousy and admiration of her choice in Johnny Depp. Really, who could blame her? […]
Is It Normal to Fantasize about Another Woman/Man While Having Sex with Your Partner? Ken was stooped over in his chair with his head cradled in his hands. “Doc, I’ve got a confession to make. You know I love my wife and would never consider cheating on her. But lately I find myself fantasizing about […]