Hope is found here...even for the rockiest relationships.
We are Mary Ellen Goggin & Jerry Duberstein Ph.D. We help couples heal their relationship. Over our 40 years of experience, we discovered a private and intensive weekend retreat to be far more effective than traditional weekly couples counseling sessions.
In our private couples retreats, we help couples on the edge of divorce or struggling with relationship-shattering issues or that just need guidance to get back on track. We believe that you chose your partner for a reason and with guidance most problems can be resolved. We guide you in a way that honors your soul, encourages your heart, inspires your mind, and heals the inevitable wounds you suffered along the way.
Art + Science
Our work fuses the art + science of relationship.
In our couples counseling retreat, we guide you to the true nature of your relationship, smooth out craggy edges, and tinker with refinements.
When you first created your relationship, its form was like a hunk of stone with rough edges. In time, you smoothed and refined some of them in your journey together. Maybe you left some edges rough. You got hurt, lost interest, got distracted by life.
Each relationship has its own true nature. As relationship scientists, we use inquiry to discover the true nature of yours. We want to know what your relationship is, in its real form, stripped down to its bare essence.
The four of us will craft a custom plan to take into your new life together.
In our couples counseling retreat, we meet you with our decades of experience, a practical approach, and compassionate listening. We’ll crack the hidden dynamic that blocks your happiness and point you in the direction you want to go.
No cookie-cutter models. No formulas. No preachy, do it our way lesson. Instead: Honoring your unique desires. No new-agey cliches. Instead: The fusion of art and science + our combined 40 years of clinical experience. No shoulds or shaming. Instead: Freedom to be yourself and be loved.
Our book, Relationship Transformation, gives you a trusty map for blazing your own trail to a satisfying relationship — on your own terms.
Think you have to give up freedom to have intimacy? Fear you have to sacrifice deep connection to indulge self-realization?
Deep down, most of us want it all. We want a satisfying relationship and individual freedom. We’ve been taught we can’t have both — thankfully, that’s not true!