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Intensive Couples Retreats

Our intensive couples counseling retreat will change your life.

It’s that simple.

sunsetYou start where you are and we take you where you want to go.

Our intensive couples therapy retreat is for couples who are struggling, in distress, or in crisis – and who want a happier, more peaceful life together.

You may be dealing with infidelity, addiction, rage, mid-life crisis or other relationship shattering issues.

You may have already tried couples counseling and felt you never got to the root of the problem.

You may wonder if you are beyond help.

You may be on the brink of divorce or splitting-up and want to make one last effort to save your relationship.

Nothing is worse than prolonged misery.

It feels heavy and oppressive, and sinks into your bones. You don’t need to stay weighed down. We know there is a better way.

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Do you obsessively analyze your arguments to figure out how… in just minutes… a normal conversation ended up in a blow-out fight? Are you tired of getting your buttons pushed? Are you afraid to say what’s really on your mind?

Join us & change your path

Join Jerry Duberstein and Mary Ellen Goggin (a married PhD counselor couple) in historic Boston, MA or beautiful Portsmouth, NH for a two-day Private Intensive Couple Counseling Retreat.

Step away from your daily routines- just the two of you- and spend time focused on making your relationship the way you want it – the way it “used to be” only better.

We work with couples on the brink of divorce, or at a critical decision point of whether to stay together. We help couples who struggle constantly to make things better yet still feel stuck and don’t know what to do.


You may be dealing with bitter resentment, emotional abuse, infidelity, addiction, rage, mid-life crisis or other relationship shattering issues. You may have already tried couples counseling and felt you never got to the root of the problem.

Wondering if you’re beyond help?  Here’s what one client said:

You might think you save marriages, but really I think you save hearts.
– Jeanne Bessette, Artist

This is for you

familyOur retreats are for you if you:

  • Want to refocus, reframe, revitalize and repair your relationship.
  • Want to let go of anger, guilt, hurt, and resentment.
  • Want to stop the shame and blame.
  • Want an objective opinion.
  • Want to stop envying other couples.
  • Want a new, fresh perspective.
  • Want to bring back the love + ease + comfort.
  • Want to have an experience that will change your life.

Couples Counseling Retreat Details


A two-day or three-day intensive couples retreat designed to focus on your relationship, crack the unhelpful dynamic, dismantle the barriers, and create a road map to a satisfying relationship.


Weekend or two or three consecutive days, by appointment.


Our couples retreats are held in Boston and Portsmouth, NH.



The couples counseling retreat in Portsmouth is $3500 per couple for two days and $5200 for three days (excluding lodging, meals, and airfare).

The couples counseling retreat in Boston is $4000 per couple for two days and $6000 for three days (excluding lodging, meals, and airfare).

A few more details

Interested? Complete the form below or call us at 603-828-3649 to set up a time for all of us to talk. Once you’ve decided the couples counseling retreat is right for you and you have your date, you will receive an invoice from us. Payment of the full balance will be due and payable to reserve your retreat date. We accept checks via mail and payments of all types through PayPal.

What makes this different

Our couple-to-couple counseling approach is intensive + cathartic + healing- yet strategic, forward moving and practical. It’s like nothing you’ve experienced before.

No cookie cutter models. No formulas. No preachy, do it our way lesson.

You start where you are and we take you where you want to go.

Couples tell us they love couple to couple counseling retreats with us. They feel safe and comfortable and know we’ve got their backs.

The four of us “roll up our sleeves” and work to uncover the patterns and dynamic that block your bliss.

For as long as it takes. No matter if the sun goes down.

Together we wade through the pain, the tears, the hard stuff and break-through to the other side. That place you want to be. The feeling is visceral, unmistakable + full of sweet relief. You’ll know when you get there.

And then, we celebrate because you’ve made it through the hardest part. You’ll feel lighter and more hopeful. And ready for what’s next – Working together to craft a practical custom blueprint to capture your breakthrough and re-structure your relationship. We’ll send you off with a concrete plan, specific tools + best of all, new hope + rekindled excitement about your future together.

You’ll leave with an open heart knowing you’ve gotten to the heart of the matter.

What you’ll take with you

handsPermission to be yourself.

Clarity in articulating what you need and want, and confidence to get it.

An understanding of how your family and relationship history impacts your relationship.

Deeper understanding of yourself, your desires, and expectations.

Deeper understanding of your partner.

Renewed love and connection with your partner.

A new shared vision of your life together – a relationship with all the elements you decide on together – free old baggage and unrealistic expectations.

A written agreement to support your new vision – custom-tailored to fit the unique people you are + the kind of relationship you want.

You’ll leave this retreat on the road to a more satisfying relationship – and with the resources to navigate the inevitable conflicts and struggles that arise with grace and confidence.

Our intensive couples counseling retreat will change your life.

It’s that simple.


Read what couples have to say

I felt comfortable enough to drop my shields and just talk from the heart. This is something I try to do on my own, but you guys helped me through the resistance phases and that felt very good.  – Writer, Northern California

The most surprising part of the experience for me was watching both of us finally be receptive to dealing with issues that had been big roadblocks for us. – Lawyer, Wisconsin

The combination of their different persuasive styles, their “off the charts” ability to empathize and have insight into our feelings and issues, and their ability to help us forge a “new deal” going forward that captured the key actionable items of the two days was powerful beyond words, and most likely, nothing shy of life-saving for our marriage. We drove home holding hands, with her wedding ring back on her finger for the first time in awhile. – Business Executive, Northern California

We had worked with several couples therapists (as well as individual ones). our experience with you felt totally different and marvelously refreshing in that there was no time to ruminate endlessly on “the problems” but a need to get on with the solutions. – Michigan MD

Quite simply, I could not offer a more heartfelt or authentic recommendation to couples facing complex and seemingly intractable problems in their marriage than to send you to Jerry and Meg, hopeful that they could work anything close to the same magic they helped work for us just when we thought that there was nearly no hope remaining. It was a weekend of rebirth, revitalization, and the start of a new reality for us, and I don’t know what higher standard of achievement there could possibly be in their field of work than this level of life-altering trajectory change for a couple that we experienced. – Business Executive, Northern California

Both of you listened very well, and were able to get to our denial zones so that we had to open up our hearts and communicate, something that we both had resisted. – Manager, Texas

We have a great fondness for both of you and hold you dear to our hearts! You gave us hope where there was none! – Dental Hygienist, Northern California

I like the two-day, all day approach, because it gives continuity and focus to getting at the issues and solutions, as once a week sessions never do. – Writer, Northern California

I’d definitely recommend you guys to anybody with tough relationship issues. I came away very impressed that you guys are dedicated, talented people. –  Writer, Northern California