Last night I had a strange dream. I watched my wife speed away on a motorcycle with Johnny Depp. She clung to him so tightly it was obvious they were having an affair. In that instant I felt a combination of jealousy and admiration of her choice in Johnny Depp. Really, who could blame her? […]
Hot, Steamy Sex Is Just a Click Away… Is Porn Ruining Your Relationship? Pornography is not a new issue in therapy. Over the years I’ve helped hundreds of clients understand their curiosity, shame, attraction, repulsion, and obsession with regard to porn. I’ve suggested couples try watching soft-porn together to spice up their sex life. I’ve […]
Peggy came into her session looking distraught. “There must be a screw loose in my head or I’m just not that bright when it comes to men. You would think that I would learn, but no matter how hard I try to select carefully, I end up with guys who want someone to take charge […]
A therapist offers a stepmother advice in dealing with her stepson a troubled teen-aged boy. It’s not what you think.
It is human nature to want to share our experiences with the one we love. In our intensive couples therapy retreats, we teach that a person’s desire to be “known” by their partner is a foundation of healthy intimacy. It is also human nature to be curious about your partner’s relationship past —a key to learn […]
What is your advice? Every night when Julie gets home from the office, Dan questions her about her day. He expects to hear about the morning commute, project meeting, lunch, phone calls and e-mails with friends. Julie has no interest in reliving her day and usually wants to cuddle and watch a funny show or […]
Clients commonly complain about the loss of sizzle and ensuing staleness and boredom that creeps into their relationship. They reminisce about how they felt when they fell in love, describing fireworks, shaking earth, clammy hands, flushed cheeks, unbearable anticipation, and a new awareness of the world’s vivid beauty. Few good things in life overtake and […]
Problems occur in a relationship when the partners have conflicting styles and perspectives about money. Even though money is a leading cause of divorce, couples rarely explore their individual money-selves before tying the knot. Often a money conflict sparks the discussion and sheds light on areas of incompatibility. Handled well (with awareness, understanding, and objectivity) […]