Can a Relationship on the Brink of Divorce Be Saved?

Can a Relationship on the Edge of Divorce Be Saved?  Jessica and Richard told me they were at the end of their 9 year marriage. Their relationship was draining their energy and optimism. She thought him self-centered and distant. He found her constant chatter annoying. They started counseling with me for the sake of their […]

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Relationship Politics: Right and Left

Politics + Relationship: Red State Husband-Blue State Wife Don’t Let Political Arguments Threaten Your Marriage When I was growing up my parents had opposing views on politics. My mother grew up during the depression, loved FDR and was committed to the Democratic Party. My father was a WWII veteran who liked Ike. They rarely talked […]

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The Geology of Your Relationship

In high school I took Earth Science as a way of avoiding chemistry. Geology, the study of the solid earth, is the primary Earth Science. Geology deals with the composition of earth materials and structures, and studies how the planet has changed over time and continues to change everyday. These changes in the earth’s topography […]

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Commitment Phobic or Just Confused?

Commitment Phobic or Just Confused by the Words “I Do”? I’m going out on a limb here by stating that the deep down cause of commitment phobia is the historic baggage associated with marriage as an impersonal institution of marriage and NOT lack of love. It’s about fear of loss of self and personal freedom. […]

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My Wife Wants Luxury, I Want a Simple Life

My Wife Wants Luxury, I Want a Simple Life Jack leaned forward in his chair holding his head in his hands, “I don’t think I can be the person she wants me to be. That person is just not me. I’m tired of feeling inadequate when I’m not.” Jack had been telling me about the […]

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Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship

Do you ever wonder if your relationship is abusive? If you even ask yourself this question it’s probably troubling enough, but know that you are not alone. One in three women in the U.S. is physically assaulted by a partner at least once in her lifetime. Every nine seconds a woman is beaten or attacked. […]

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I’m married. Why do I feel so lonely?

In Tom’s fifth session, we explored why he found it so difficult to ask people, including his wife Janice of 15 years, to give him what he needs. Let’s eavesdrop on the conversation. “It’s hard for me to ask anyone for anything. I’d rather walk than ask for a ride, starve than borrow money, or […]

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